Super-power: Self-confidence

If you have no confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life.

With confidence, you have won even before you started

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In Oxford Dictionaries we find the following definition of the word 'confidence': "The feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something; the state of feeling certain about the truth of something; a feeling of self-assurance arising from an appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities". This word has Latin origin, from confidere 'have full trust'.

The meaning of 'confidence' makes intuitive sence for us. We can see confident people among our colleagues and mates, nearby neighbours and passengers in transport, stallmen and passersby.

I catch myself thinking about inner lack of self-confidence. I don't half like my on and off self-doubt, even self-distrust; thinking of the past or the future, missing the power of Now; being afraid of voicing out my opinion; taking on at surrounding persons' remarks. The best confidence boosters for me are my husband and my daughter, the motive power to brace my energies and to act.

There comes a point of time when a doubtful man is not completely satisfied with a placebo effect of comforters and starts getting busy refining himself.

What should we do to improve self-confidence?

Face our fears. Do what you are afraid of because most of our fears are irrational. Prove yourself you can handle it with complete faith. Don't think "what if", just try it.

Have a rich inner world and get the most abundant life possible for yourself. Get your own experience through discipline and training.

Muscle relaxation and deep breathing help us to get rid of nervousness and supersensitivity to criticism.

Manage your thinking and empty your mind from inner voice that creates interiority complex by telling us all sort of negative things. Program yourself for successful and happy life by planning goals and achieving them.

Focus on your strength. It might be something you like and you are good at. So improve it.

Help others. Kindness and making a positive difference in other people's lives let you know that you are a positive force in the world.

Respect yourself. You have your own opinion and decision. You are unique, capable and worthy.

If your make-up gives you self-confidence - do it, if someT-shirt helps you to feel lucky - wear it, if you are sure of success after talking with your friend - call him. But we'd remember that the main power is inside us, in all circumstances.